Ghosting: Getting Out of Someone

Have you experienced this lately?

2020 has been a tough year for all of us. The word “socialization” face-to-face always begins with a negative COVID-test result. Many people use cyberspace functions to be able to simply ask how they are, even though the satisfaction they feel is not 100% the same. This is felt by all groups of society, old/young, rich/poor like it / not. As someone who still feels that he is young if he hears or reads the word "socialization", for a moment the author's mind thinks of the opposite sex which I think is quite beautiful and charming.

Talking to the opposite sex is an important part of a writer's life. How not, the stories offered by each person are very different, so that the author gets a lot of new perspectives in living this life. Often when I am in the campus area, I can't stand it if I don't try to socialize with someone we can say random. Writers also frequently help listen to other people's life stories and try to make them feel heard

There's a friendship section, there's a non-friendship section, and this is where the socializing part gets pretty tough.

Now, whose initial intention was to be more than friends, the response was that he was our friend. This fact is made worse again by the situation in Indonesia where the COVID-19 pandemic is still happening and there is no sign of an end to it. Just like everyone else, social media is used as mere lip service or what we can say is also a model. The author also understands how this mode is launched from most of the men to the women of their dreams, hoping that someday there will be a connection that will last until one day or more easily have a life partner.

For men or women who have approached the opposite sex through cyberspace, they must have experienced ghosting once or twice. Maybe for those who have never heard of this term, they must have felt their crush suddenly disappear, like being swallowed up by the earth. According to the author, ghosting itself has several types, which are divided into these 3 types.

1. Minimal Ghosting

This type of ghosting usually looks less like ghosting, because it is done unconsciously. One noticeable feature is that conversations on social media do not happen so smoothly. Conversations that occur usually come and go depending on your mood or activity. Usually, this type of ghosting occurs during the earliest period of an approaching period, where both parties want to see a match

2. Maximal Ghosting

The second type of ghosting is a very common type of ghosting. After talking for a long time on social media, there will usually be a meeting. Maximum ghosting occurs after the two people meet. Why does this happen ? Some of the things that can affect are the differences in people when talking through cyberspace and the real world. It takes many factors to get people interested in talking to someone in the real world rather than in cyberspace

3. Extreme Ghosting

The third type of ghosting does occur at the most unexpected times. This is normal if it happens, but because it happens for no apparent reason, sometimes giving us negative thoughts about how good our quality and our lives are. This type of ghosting often occurs suddenly, be it at the beginning, middle, or end. This type of ghosting is usually a person just disappearing right away, completely disappearing. The reason most of this third type of ghosting occurs because there are already new people in their lives who are better off

The author understands that when you accept ghosting, you will feel a little bit of discomfort. You will feel curiosity, and maybe other negative feelings. The author can only tell those who are ghosting that the ghosting behavior does not reflect the quality of life of your friends. When someone is ghosting us, it doesn't mean the quality of ourselves and our life is bad.